Is It True, What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger???


imagesCA5GJTBPRecently I’ve been listening to the audio book, “The Happiness Hypothesis” and more specifically a sub-chapter entitled, “The Adversity Hypothesis.”  In the segment the author posits the question of whether or not adversity makes you stronger.  An interesting question, don’t you think?  But, as you may have come to expect by now, I plan to hit this subject from another angle.  So before we delve in, I’d like to say how grateful I am that someone took the time to teach me the truth concerning God and life so that I don’t have to spend my time and effort researching what men say and studying conclusions that philosophers make!  If you think about it, the disadvantage a scientist or a philosopher has is that they can only study the effects of what is and what is, is not always as it appears to be…  Add to that the reality that God has so arranged life in order to help us win and overcome, but that arrangement often appears as an original intention, not an adaptation.  Confused? Okay, I’ll explain…

God in His ultimate perfection does not need evil or suffering or pain to make us better people.  The prototype, Adam, was not designed to suffer or get sick or even die.  His beginnings started without the influence of evil.  Adam’s choice allowed the entrance of evil and as a result people have been suffering ever since.  Am I angry with Adam?  Of course not.  I’m just glad it wasn’t up to me (smile).  I digress…  So along the way of life, human beings now have to overcome evil and pain and suffering.  Was it part of the plan?  Well, yes and no.  No, in that it was not God’s original intention (remember He is all love and light), but yes in that in His foreknowledge He knew what his blessed free-will man would do.  And thus knowing, made a way for man to escape the clutches of evil and sadly overcome his suffering.  And to now come full circle, in the future there will one day be no such thing as evil again and those of us who choose to believe will live forever without any suffering ever again (in that day when… He shall wipe the tears from their eyes).  But until that great future day, here we are…

So, does what doesn’t kill you make you stronger?  Yes, if so be that you happen to survive it.  There are many folks still living today that have not actually survived it.  For example, I recently received a long comment on one of my blogs, where I was expounding God’s ability to heal us from His heart of love, whereby a rather hurt lady proceeded to inform me about her horrible suffering dating back to her childhood; her ardent displeasure in God for apparently allowing it to happen and her present sentiment, “F**k God for allowing it!  And naturally my heart goes out to her.  You see, she is alive but is clearly not okay.  So why would anyone ever conclude that God would purposefully allow suffering or worse, cause suffering to make people better in the end?  That logic is insane even on the surface, yet that’s what “people” say and teach and so life goes on in suffering.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, God does not “allow” bad things to happen to people!  His heart of love is infinitely greater than yours and mine; infinitely greater!  He doesn’t need the horrific ways of the adversary to help Him bring His people up.  But free will necessitates that we all can choose what we will believe and thereby ultimately what we may unknowingly allow.  And I should point out before you get angry with me, of course a child isn’t responsible for what is “allowed” to happen to him.  Parents are responsible to believe “for” their children, while they are still children.  Then, it’s a daisy chain of events that sometimes goes on for generations because as a whole, folks don’t generally understand what God is really all about and what He can and will do to help us.  Even worse, many people don’t even think there is an adversary that seeks to work them woe, so they blindly assign it all to God, and suffer!  I’m no scholar perhaps, but I’d be pretty pissed at God if He did cruel horrible things to me and my family!  And, would not give a damn how many mysterious purposes you assigned to the evil!

So after being very clear regarding who does the good and who does the evil, we are ready to answer the question and the answer is maybe…  The obstacles and trials of life can actually make you stronger if you can see them for what they really are; attribute it to the evil that is really behind it and believe God to show you the way to recovery and wholeness.  Research actually shows that people recover faster from tragedies when they are able to make sense of what happened and random happenstance or bad luck makes no sense!

God has given all of us the ability through His Word and His spirit to overcome even the most devastating of events (See Job in the Bible), but you and I, like Job, have to get to the place where we see God for who He really is; a loving, kind, tender, compassionate Father that seeks our best interest no matter what we have done to the contrary!  Blaming ourselves for the evil that happens in our lives will never help us.  What helps us is when we get real honest and earnestly seek the answers to the questions that plague us.  There is always an answer folks.

Life being what it is, in version B, we are going to face many obstacles and challenges.  They weren’t just part of life, but now they are just part of life.  Accordingly, God is able to use that wrong directed toward you (for no good reason) and turn it to your benefit as you get strong and wise in areas you were formerly weak and ignorant.  But in the process, let Him show you how to do it without the suffering part.  You’ll like that a lot better!

Does what doesn’t kill you make you stronger?  Yes, if you get God involved!

Just some good thoughts (that didn’t kill you!)…

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Peace…the Absence of Fearful Considerations.


PeacefulI don’t think you would find it a stretch if I said that everyone is after peace of mind.  We make more and more money in attempt to find peace.  We buy life insurance with the hopes of ensuring peace for our loved ones.  We take trips into nature to enjoy the peace that we believe we will find there.  And for good reason, right?  Who doesn’t enjoy a sense of calmness on the inside.  Who doesn’t appreciate the wonder of undisturbed, untroubled waters within?  Who could possibly be against having “ease of being?”  Well, there’s something very simple, yet profound in its effects, namely that peace is simply the absence of fearful considerations.  I remember writing not too long ago that often success and happiness in life come not so much from the things we do, but more from the things we don’t do.  So, I’ll get back to that in a minute.  First indulge me in a short rant about fear…

Contrary to what you may have been taught, fear is your greatest enemy.  Fear isn’t healthy!  Fear isn’t natural!  Fear isn’t normal!  The first man Adam didn’t have any fear.  Maybe you should read that again!  Adam didn’t have any fear in any way for any reasons, that is until he went against (in typical human fashion) the one thing God told him not to do!  And by doing so, introduced the great enemy of mankind with fear following closely on his coat-tails.  Fear had an origin.  But don’t get it twisted, fear is never right.  Fear is unhealthy in every way.  It is decidedly unnatural and abnormal.  But, we don’t think to be true.  You know why?  Because this whole world we live in runs on fear; feeds on fear; brings fear and promotes fear!  Advertisements make you afraid so you will buy something.  Politicians scare the hell out of you with made up stories about pending disaster; to protect you?  Never!  To get more votes and power and influence; always!  Fear, fear, fear…  We wonder why people are deluged with anxiety.  We’ve been completely overun by fear.

So, what exactly is the solution?  Not what you might think, I fear (pun intended).  With all of that talk about facing your fears and feeling your fears; there’s another way to go.  Refuse your fear.  Fear at it’s core level is a weapon used by the enemy of righteousness to enslave people.  When you are afraid , not much happens.  Fear slows life down to a snail’s pace.  Fear, which issues in unbelief or negative belief, is the only thing that cuts you off from receiving God’s help by causing you not to believe and thus get defeated. But here is where it gets tricky on you.  Fear is actually a temptation; a temptation to do something contrary to God’s will – fear.  And like any temptation, it gathers power by your consideration of it.  Think about the last time something made you feel afraid.  Chances are you had the thought, it scared you and then you felt like you couldn’t let it go.  By God, you were going to solve it by analyzing it from every angle frantically searching for a solution.  Did you solve it that way?  Nope!  Chances are you gave away x-amount of time until some other consideration came along and maybe you let it go.  But, while you were in that period of fearful consideration, your life was officially on hold.  That’s how fear and its source gains power over you.  In order for fear to defeat you it needs your help or your vote if you will.  And you give it entrée by considering it.  Notice the next time something makes you afraid how difficult it feels to simply let it go.  Yet trusting God is all about letting it go.  And if you’re honest, doubt, worry and fear don’t prepare you for some pending doom, they just catastrophize things in your mind.

So like I said earlier, when it comes to fear it’s all about what you don’t do or refuse to do, more than what you do-do.  Refuse to give those fear thoughts any consideration.  I mean get really serious about it.  Stop running all of that disaster through your mind.  Stop counting up and cataloguing everything that can go wrong and just live.  Don’t give those thoughts your attention.  That’s not Pollyanna, that’s belief.  Like 50 Cent once said so eloquently, “It seems kind of insulting to God to pray about something then spend all your time worrying about how it won’t happen for you!”  (And you thought he was just a rapper!)

And here is something that will happen that will absolutely blow your mind.  If you got real serious about refusing those thoughts, you will start to experience this really, really odd feeling – peace.  You will have a calmness on the inside that you have always dreamed of.  You will catch of glimpse of how God always wanted you to feel.  But ya gotta do it, to get it.  You have to take your mind by the ears and make it obey.  Sure facing your fears is effective.  Absolutely deciding to keep moving despite feeling afraid is good for you.  But, nothing is as effective as simply refusing to do it.  REFUSE!

So the next time the enemy whispers some fearful consideration in your ear, don’t take it on by considering it.  Take it on by adamantly refusing it.  God will always, always come through for you, but He needs you to obey.  Life can become pretty scary, especially when others depend on you, but fear always was and always will be a grand illusion.  What can’t God repair or heal or restore?  What?  (I’ll wait…)

At the end of the day, peace is the absence of fear…

Just some good thoughts…