How Did I End Up Here?


bus-lane2_636250051617305266Have you ever, in a sudden flash of insight, wondered how in the hell did I end up here? All of us had our youthful fantasies where we were playing professional baseball or were the star actor in a hit movie. However choppy or obscure, all of us entertained some vague notions of how life would be for us in the future. Then, the future got here and it wasn’t exactly what we expected. For many folks it turned into a nightmare from which they are now seeking an escape. How did it happen? How did we end up here?

The short answer is, you were the one driving the bus! The longer answer is a little more tricky. The life that you are living today is a composite sketch you first outlined and then refined through days, months and years of thinking certain thoughts. Yes, my friend, you were driving the bus. Oh, I know it didn’t seem like you were always driving the bus. If anything it seemed like you were sometimes navigating the bus through difficult and confusing circumstances. Many days perhaps you were anxiously driving the bus with a death grip on the wheel, fearful of how things were going to turn out. At other times, for a myriad of reasons, you let someone else drive your bus trusting them to get you to a good destination. For years maybe you were not even aware that you are supposed to drive your own bus and just hoped with the rest of the world that God would somehow drive your bus for you if you were good to people and weren’t too much of a dick or something… But no matter the reasons, even the compelling good reasons, you are responsible to drive your own bus and choose your own destinations!

I believe that we all, on occasions, find ourselves scratching our heads at how we turned out to be exactly like our fathers or suffer from the same issues as our mothers, though we swore we never would. We didn’t realize that the same crap that got to them would eventually get to us as well. In our youthful wisdom, we didn’t see it coming, just like they didn’t see it coming. In reality it wasn’t our propensity to fall for the same mistakes that defeated us or even inherited weaknesses in the gene pool that got us. What got us; what defeated us; what we failed to see was “it,” manipulating behind the scenes and causing us to drive our buses in the wrong damn direction! All that precious time we spent focusing on things we didn’t want, left us driving on a road we didn’t choose, leading to a destination we do not like. You want to know how you got here? This is how you got here! The sooner you decide to take your keys back the better.

Aside from the incessant and persistent manipulation and every other force that drives us away from our best lives, there is another far more subtle power at work, also based on fear but far less obvious. This perennial  flat tire to our happiness is the overworked and overused, insane, dishonest, “I have to please everyone else” mentality that seems noble but in reality is a cruelty afflicting both who you are and who you could ever hope to be! This slippery wrench in the works convinces you to make choices that aren’t really your choices in favor of playing it safe or protecting your family or whatever other bullshit you have been confessing to yourself to rationalize bad decisions and miserable circumstances. Your age, your income, your bad knees, your upbringing, your momma, your spouse all have nothing to do with your capacity; even your necessity to change your thoughts and slowly but surely change your life. You are no more stuck than the energy it takes to say so. None of us are ever truly mired in life’s circumstances, no matter how they present themselves. What we become stuck in is a wrong belief playing itself out over a thousand iterations. Change the flat tire!

How your life has played out thus far is a product of your own making and once you are finally able to own that, you can climb confidently back into the driver’s seat and chart a new course; one that you sought after on purpose. Refusing to own your part in this grand drama leaves you as the victim, pitifully wasting away your one short go-round, waiting for someone or something to change your scenario; change your course for you. No matter how bad things may have gotten for you, you still know what you enjoy, right? You still know what good looks and feels like, right? It may surprise you to know that God Himself, with all of His limitless power and ability, can only take you as far as you are willing to go. His job isn’t to drive you to your future destination. He made you the bus driver. Instead He can only encourage you through crazy blog-writers who have the audacity to repeat what His Word says, hopefully in ways that you can understand!

You think countless thoughts within the space of a day. Why not take a breath and find out what some of those thoughts are and then challenge them if they don’t fit the image of what you want for your life. Just because you thought a thought doesn’t make it true. Good bus drivers have to wrestle all of those unruly thoughts into submission and in doing so take over the wheel of their own ride.

However you got here to this moment in time only proves your history thus far. Your future is something you are planning for today by the thoughts you entertain the most. Recognize how big of a deal those little thoughts really are and work with the system people!

By the way, I’m glad you got here… 😉

Just some good thoughts.

 

 

Who’s Driving Your Bus?


pigeon-drive-the-busIn stark contrast to what you may have learned, you are not a victim in life. Sh*t doesn’t just happen! And, while it is so damn common today for everyone to preach, “Everything happens for a reason,” (which subtly implies the negatives that occur have some good purpose behind them) the truth is that everything does happen for a reason but that reason isn’t always good! (Don’t even get me started on the phrase, “It’s all good!”) Then, sadly, there is that awful phrase, “It wasn’t meant to be,” which is the universal catch-all scapegoat for taking away any and all personal responsibility in life. If you ever take the time to consider those words, they imply a lack of control over what happens to you. I mean come on, wasn’t meant to be by whom? God? Is life really a scary whirlwind that you find yourself caught up in? Did the Creator predestinate you to certain conditions and circumstances and there is nothing you can do about it? If you believe these things, and Lord knows you’ve heard them, then you are not driving your own bus! And if you aren’t driving your own bus, then who is? ((Now that’s scary!)

This life that God has blessed you with is not without control. It seems like it is because apparent randomness and apparent accidents, apparent good fortune and apparent bad luck are all around you. But, what if those events and circumstances aren’t random at all? What if your life is persistently being influenced to think a certain way? What if you are being imperceptibly systematized into error? What if something successfully convinced you that instead of being the driver of your own bus, you are just a passenger waiting hopelessly for the right stop? What if my friends, what if?

Now I’ve lived long enough to know that things don’t always turn out the way we “wished” they would. I’ve had my share of heartache and angst. I’ve struggled and whined and reviled. I’ve been stuck in a vortex of negativity. I have not gotten the job, not gotten the promotion, witnessed suffering and seen dreams not come into fruition. Did that mean I never really had any control? Or did it mean I had not yet learned to consistently take ownership and responsibility for the outcomes in my life? When those things occurred was I a passenger on the bus or the driver? It couldn’t be that I was driving or I never would have chosen those destinations!

The great key to the bus in your life is your believing. Believing for the things you want doesn’t mean you won’t be greatly challenged for the driver’s seat, but rather it means no matter how many times you get the keys wrestled from you, you take them back again! Bad stuff does happen to good people, but believing people are determined to recover and start driving again! Believing is something you do with your mind and your heart. Believing is choosing what you will and will not have in your life. How many of you are waiting and waiting for something good to happen, yet never taking the key and driving the bus? “Oh Lord, if you could just get me this or rescue me from that!” His response? “Psssst, it’s your bus!” You see God Almighty Himself cannot do a blessed thing for you until you believe! Wishing, hoping, waiting are all passengers on the bus to nowhere. It doesn’t matter what it looks like. It is immaterial what has happened in the past. The only moment you can live in is “now!” So get the key, start up the bus and drive! Once you start driving, things are going to happen!

This certainly isn’t a criticism of you, however. I live in this same world you live in and sometimes what we want just seems impossible. But, and trust me on this one, nothing is going to happen until you can somehow wrap your mind around believing. Believing is full persuasion from the heart. Have you ever got sick and tired of some negative scenario and said, “Enough is enough?” – and really meant it? The situation seemed to resolve rather quickly, didn’t it? And, if it didn’t resolve, you aint quite there yet! But, it’s still your bus and you are still the driver!

Believing is God’s wonderful way of giving us control over this crazy life. The people who enjoy great success use it. The people who endure great distress also use it, but they use it as fear and fear gets you that terrible thing just as surely as confidence gets you that good thing. Our lives are completely predicated on what we believe; about ourselves; the world; our families, everything… And the kicker? It doesn’t matter if you believe in God or not because believing is something all people may do. I’d rather believe in God than just myself, but hey that’s just me~

So, do you want to get your life back? Do you need deliverance from something evil? Do you need a way out; an escape route? Is there a life you have imagined but haven’t found yet? Pull out your key and drive your own bus! There is no other way.

Sh*t does not just happen! Some things that happen are evil and the reason is to screw your life up! It’s not all good by any stretch of the imagination! And nothing, absolutely nothing is meant to be!!! God is always for you and if you ever mustered up the gumption to believe what He said, you would get whatever it is that you wanted. There is absolutely no limit for with God nothing is impossible!

Quit being a passenger on your own bus! Get the key and drive baby! There’s nothing more impressive than a man or a woman driving their own bus… It is your right as a person! Life is short, drive now… Drive now!

Just some good thoughts…

PS Read “The Energy Bus” by Jon Gordon if you aren’t quite ready for the Good book…