It Is What It Is…


As a burgeoning human being, you have this wonderful capacity not only to experience your life as it is, but also to imagine what your life might become in the future. Being marvelously unique, your awareness comes from within with all of the associations and connections you can muster based almost exclusively from your own perspective. Things that are labeled good or bad to you, may represent an entirely different meaning to someone else. For this reason, it can be difficult at times to perceive things as they really are absent your own internal persuasions. Thus, in order to make any meaningful changes, it necessitates you first see things clearly and accurately minus all of the meanings you are likely assigning to those things. Truly, when it comes to improving, repairing, healing or restoring any good thing, you first have to see it and accept it for what it is. It is what it is…

Calling a thing a thing, as a famous lady once remarked, is at the foundation of problem solving any situation you may find yourself in. Said another way, you cannot fix what you refuse to acknowledge. Ignoring problems, glossing over bad situations, refusing to accept that something is not right, only leads towards difficulties and unpleasant times persisting. If we are honest, we already know when circumstances have gone south on us. We know when a good thing has lost its goodness. Deep down our hearts already know when there’s a disturbance; a misconnect; impediments and obstacles. The reason we fail to act on the obvious is because we desperately cleave to another narrative; one where things are still okay even though we know they are not okay. A narrative that assures us nothing has changed but instead has simply become familiar. And, onward we trudge, inching ahead, hoping something or someone will make it all right. Our failure is in being afraid to see things as they already are. It is what it is.

It does not require a PhD or some other form of higher learning to recognize that nothing in life is static. Everything is ever in a continual state of flux. Living things are either growing or they are dying, but they are not remaining the same. Change isn’t something to be afraid of as everything changes in one capacity or another. They key in successfully navigating the change is found in our willingness to observe what actually is and then seek to make improvements or repairs or whatever the situation calls for at the time. People change sometimes for the good, sometimes for the not so good. Circumstances change. Conditions change. You cannot apply the logic of ten years ago to the scenarios of today. Neither can you compare yourself of today to yourself of the past as the variables of today, though eerily similar, are not the same. Time and chance have happened to them all. For this reason, the only plausible way to endeavor is by addressing your life experiences now in the thousand eyed present, not in the single eyed view of the past. It doesn’t matter what you did before, what matters is what you do now. It doesn’t matter what used to work, it matters what works now. It doesn’t matter who you used to be, it matters who you are today. Your problem is what it is today and the only time to solve it is today. It is what it is…

If you would like God to heal your broken arm, you must first acknowledge that your arm is broken. If you want God to heal your broken heart, you have to admit to yourself that your heart is broken. It’s not so much that over time things break, but rather that you are honest enough to accept what is, not what used to be. It is not being positive or renewing your mind to lie to yourself about your reality. Renewing your mind, like being positive, is about applying God’s solutions to the things that plague you, those things that have become broken over time. How foolish it is to apply some cheery resolve to a problem rather than to see it and say it and determine within yourself to work it out. Insisting that you already know what to do or what you cannot do based on some tired, former assessment of a situation that has already changed a hundred times, leads only to a futile resolve to stay stuck, mired in some vague notion formed in the past. It is what it is…

Solving relationship problems, solving financial problems, solving achievement problems, solving health problems, indeed solving spiritual problems requires that you finally allow yourself to see it for what it is. It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or someone else’s fault, the world’s fault or the devil’s fault. What matters most is that you stop being afraid to admit something has gone wrong and then taking the steps to make it right. Why carry with you all of your former excuses and justifications, your rationales and myriad former failed attempts? Why insist on cleaving to a bad strategy that didn’t work before and isn’t working now? Why? Why not, while fully accepting and acknowledging the problem, try to see the situation through fresh eyes, with clarity, focused not on continuing to be right or begrudgingly absolving yourself of any responsibility and choose not rather to locate the remedy, no matter the cost. Sometimes the solutions are right there in front of you, patiently waiting for you to release what was in favor of what is. It is what it is…

At the end of the day, we all want to be happy, to be fulfilled, to be blessed. We all want deepening and enduring love. We all want to succeed and to prosper and to live life to the absolute full. This life is far too short to continue tripping over our own selves and our own stubborn refusal to see things for what they really are. With God’s help we can solve anything, heal anything or recover anything that has become broken or damaged over time.

It is what it is, but it doesn’t have to stay that way…

Just some good thoughts…

When Life Goes South on You


Do you find yourself amidst what seems like an endless stream of difficulties? Have you suffered some recent loss which causes you to question your existence or for that matter, the existence of God? Do you feel like you are always paddling upstream and can’t seem to catch a break? Do you feel like, for reasons presently unknown, life has gone south on you?

First, it’s important for you to understand that life, at some point, takes a negative turn for all of us. The negatives that confront us and challenge us are a part of life not because it is God’s plan, but because of a violation of God’s plan that led to God’s enemy, the devil gaining access (by man’s choice) to God’s creation. God never intended for life to be so full of difficulties as His plan was just the opposite. But, because man has free will he can choose whatever he wills and at one time that choice introduced evil into the world. It is that evil, whether you believe it or not, that is behind every bad thing that ever happened to you. Life is not random and your struggles are not random. They were designed, planned, and artfully and masterfully executed by an opponent you cannot see nor readily discern.

No-one living is exempt from this conflict, though they pray a thousand well-intended prayers. It is just the way it is. God’s believing people are assaulted if not more than those who choose not to believe, because they belong to God. As such, God never promised life would be without the fight, but rather promised that in the middle of the fight, we can always win! There will be times when things go wrong on you or bad things happen to you causing you to wonder where God is… Your temptation will be to foolishly conclude that God isn’t there for you or worse that your own wrong behavior has led to all these difficulties. Well, the reality is that the challenges will come no matter how you behave. Of course, you can do your part to add difficulties to your life, but whether you brought it on yourself or your enemy just sucker-punched you, God’s will is always your deliverance; your recovery; your complete restoration to wholeness! And, He will never allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able along the way.

In order for you to aggressively fight back instead of quietly acquiescing or giving up, you first need know who and what you are fighting. If you think that God is behind your struggles, you could not be more wrong! If you have allowed someone to talk you into some nonsensical bullshit about how God has some greater plan for you and is thereby kicking your ass, or some similar phraseology that subtly assigns the present distressing evil to God, again you could not be more wrong! I can assure you that if God were behind your struggles, there would be no remedy! But, He isn’t behind it in any form or fashion, not even in the most minute detail. The reason you have even considered this notion is because that’s what people say; people wholly unaware of their opponent. It’s no accident however, because in order to whoop you up real good your enemy has to convince you first that he doesn’t exist and next that the trouble must be coming from God (Your only source of help!). Like I said, it is quite the masterful operation and it is causing you a lot of unnecessary pain.

So, here you are wondering what the hell happened to you and questioning your every thought, motive and behavior for the past 10 years. Question no further. Evil sucks and it’s after everyone. Remember the Apostle Paul from the Bible? He probably did this life thing a little better than you and me, right? Yet Paul, when accounting his troubles said, “Three times I was beaten with rods. Once I was stoned. Three times I was shipwrecked. Once I spent a whole night and a day adrift at sea.”  Capisce? You get it? The great Apostle Paul, God’s believing man, was challenged, not because of his sin or wrong, but because God’s enemy hated him and what he stood for in life! I mean come on! Once when he survived the shipwreck, as he gathered sticks to make a fire, a venomous snake came out of the wood and bit him. But, he just shook the beast off and kept on keeping on…

So what should you do when life seems to smack you in the face or gut punches you? Don’t spend a moment of time in consideration of how good or bad you are or worse what the evil lesson is trying to teach you! God doesn’t need the devil to help him teach you anything! Instead, go to God immediately looking for the solution. Whether it be restoration of your health or your finances or a relationship, get yourself to your only real source of help. Don’t fret yourself or allow yourself to be filled with anxiety because everything seems to be going south on you. God can show you and help you to get it going north again! But, like Paul, you have to keep moving forward. Your enemy walks about like a roaring lion seeking who he can devour. So, you can’t sit there paralyzed with fear waiting for the next catastrophe. You gotta get yourself up and move ahead. Don’t rehearse it to everyone you know or glorify the evil work by repeating the story a million times over. Get quiet in your heart, ask God for His help (as many times as you need to), and do your best to move forward. As you move, and not until you move, God will make the path clear for you. And after a time, He will even teach you what led to it so you can be that much stronger in the future.

Life goes south for everyone at one time or another, but that doesn’t mean you cannot prevail. Think good things about yourself and never again consider that God is behind your challenges. The adversary is behind your challenges and if you don’t fold, you cannot lose…

Just some good thoughts…