As a card carrying member of the approval seekers club, I can tell you a few things about the pitfalls of the game. Us approval seekers generally got our start early on trying to persuade some meanie to like us. Once we learned the game we could wield powers over people by making sure everyone…
Well, it’s Christmas season and many family members are flying into town to hang out for the holidays.And, like most families, there are going to be relatives that don’t get along. You will endure the one sibling that has always annoyed you. The obnoxious aunt. The uber-religious lady. The squabbling, the fights, the strong opinions…
If you have read any of my blogs then you know I’m a big proponent for self-love and treating yourself like someone you love. It seems the saddest state of affairs occurs when people get to the place where they don’t love themselves anymore or live amidst the constant din of negative self-judgments and disapproval.…
As the author of, “Just Some Good Thoughts (nothing more, nothing less…)” I have always been fascinated with thoughts and the impact those thoughts have on our lives. Generally speaking, people are not taught much about the importance of controlling their thinking. And while we may not consciously think every thought that pops into our…
I was musing the other day about how much our own thoughts about ourselves influence our life for better or for worse. Sometimes we act as if life is just happening to us and we’re along for the ride, so to speak. We are quick to point to circumstances and conditions without really taking any…
As I reflected on tonight’s topic, it seemed the logical answer would be “yes!” But, is it though? Or, did the question give you a certain amount of pause followed by some persuading of self to arrive at the right answer? What happens to a person that leads to not loving themself? What kind of…
Have you ever thought about how many people in the world find themselves constantly plagued with the need to do better? You can’t go very far without hearing someone explain how they need to get better in some category of life. Sure it seems honorable and like the right thing to do, but is it?…
Human beings, unlike any other creature, contain this wonderful capacity to say things to themselves. It’s called self-talk. Inside, where no one else can hear, you can engage in your own internal dialogue whereby you say things to yourself, about yourself, concerning yourself. We all do it. The question is, what sort of things are…
The world, the people in the world, maybe even you have become so damn critical about everyone and everything. All day long it’s what you don’t like, who gets on your nerves, who did you wrong, what you didn’t get, what drives you nuts, what makes your blood boil and on and on and on.…
The other day I was listening to a teaching from my good buddy Mark Wallace. He told a story about an experiment where people were asked to describe themselves to a criminal sketch artist. Then, those same folks were also described to the sketch artist by their friends. Amazingly, the friends’ description of the person…